Hey, I hate to break it to you, dearest, but you are the equal + opposite force of the MRA: the feminist who really really wants to talk about the men + what we can do about those men. I’m tired of talking about men. But okay, what are we holding them accountable for? Participating in patriarchy? Then why limit yourself to just those who purchase sexual services? Participating in capitalism? Why are we limiting it to men? Why don’t you give nearly as many fucks about the way you, me, AND all these men buy clothes produced by mostly-female garment workers laboring under horrible conditions for low pay? Who asked you to advocate against the sex industry in particular, one of the very few industries that remains an option for those who have been pushed out of all the formal economies like the abusive garment industry? The sex industry is going to be among the *last* to fall, because the poor, disabled, and generally disregarded are going to keep needing it till the revolution ends and utopia is cobbled together from the wreckage of the Forever 21s and H&Ms.
Sex workers don’t need *you* to critique the sex industry. We need you to support *us* in our critiques. If you’re looking for something to advocate against in your free time and economic justice just isn’t sexy enough for you, why not try domestic violence, since that pushes a huge number of people— including most of the underage youth— into the industry? Or, hell, volunteer to play with the kittens at your local animal shelter. Just please, do not write another second-semester philosophy essay on pornography’s effects on male viewers.
|Step 1:||Tell girls they exist solely for male pleasure.|
|Step 2:||Tell boys that the more sex they have and girls they exploit, the more masculine they are.|
|Step 3:||Tell girls they can't actually have sex before marriage or they are unpure, unloveable, and equatable to a chewed-up wad of gum.|
|Step 4:||Tell boys that they cannot control or make choices about their own sexual urges.|
|Step 5:||Never mention or give accurate information about consent.|
|Step 6:||Never mention or give accurate information about contraception.|
|Step 7:||Call sexually active girls "sluts".|
|Step 8:||Call sexually active boys "players".|
|Step 9:||Blame girls for getting pregnant or infected with an STI.|
|Step 10:||Blame girls when they get raped.|
|Step 11:||Remind boys that they aren't fully responsible for their actions.|
|Step 12:||Deny rape culture exists.|